Frequently Asked Questions about an Engaged Encounter Weekend

What should we bring to the weekend? 
• Comfortable casual clothing (dressing in layers is a good idea)
• Toiletries, medicines and other personal items
• Water bottle that you can refill from large water coolers available at the retreat house
• Flashlight
• Light jacket or sweatshirt

What supplies are provided on the weekend?
You DO NOT need to bring these items:
• Linens (towels, sheets, pillows, blankets, etc.)
• Notebook and pen

What are the ground rules for the weekend?
• Please refrain from the use of alcohol and illegal drugs
• Please stay in your assigned room
• No pets are allowed
• Please refrain from bringing electronic games, iPods, Televisions
• Please do not leave the weekend, for any reason. If an emergency arises, please speak to one of the team members.

What time should we arrive?
Please arrive between 7:00 and  7:30 on Friday night. The weekend will begin at 8:00 p.m. Because we are on a tight schedule, we cannot wait for couples who arrive late. If there is an emergency and you must be late, please call the retreat center at 831-623-4234 and leave a message. 

Will dinner be served on Friday evening?
No. The dining room will not be open until Saturday morning. On Saturday, three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) will be served. On Sunday, two meals (breakfast and lunch) will be served.

Do we have to stay for the entire weekend?
Yes. If you arrive late or leave early you will miss important parts of the weekend experience, and we will not be able to give you your weekend certificate, which verifies your attendance. 

What time does the weekend end?
The weekend typically concludes after Mass, around 2 or 3 on Sunday afternoon. 

Can you accommodate special dietary needs?
Yes. The kitchen will do their best to accommodate special requests. Please indicate any special dietary needs on your registration form.  Our registration team will communicate these needs to the kitchen staff prior to the weekend.

Will I have a roommate?
Yes, you will have a roommate of the same sex as yourself.  While we recognize that couples may already be living together, you will not be permitted to share a room with your fiancι while attending the weekend.     

What will my room be like?
Your room will be similar to a simple college dorm room. It will have 2 beds, a place to hang clothes, a simple desk, and a bathroom with a sink, shower and toilet that you will share with your roommate.   

What should we wear?
Dress for the entire weekend is casual. Please dress comfortably and in layers.  The evenings can be cool and sometimes windy, so a light jacket may be necessary.   

Where can I smoke?
Smoking is permitted outside only.  You may not smoke in your rooms or inside of any buildings at the St. Francis Retreat Center.

Will we have much free time this weekend?
No, the weekend is designed to be intense so that you can spend as much concentrated time together as possible preparing for your marriage. You may find that we stay up later and get up earlier than you typically would on a weekend. Time permitting; we will have a break on Saturday afternoon.

Is there an emergency number?
If you need to contact the facility because of an emergency, or if someone needs to get hold of you in the event of an emergency while you are attening a weekend, please instruct friends/family to call St. Francis Retreat directly at 831-623-4234.  Cell phone reception while at the retreat center is limited and unreliable.